Have you ever wondered what God says about being single? I certainly have.
Singleness, for women or men seems to be weird topic these days. Sometimes I feel as though it’s a topic that can go unnoticed and one that society tends to shy away from. So I started toiling these questions around in my mind.
- Why do we tend to shy away from the idea or reality of being single? (I realize that guys might deal with it a little differently than women, but I still think the struggle is very much the same.)
- Why do we sometimes feel bad about being single?
- Is it possible that our culture today has somehow concocted the idea that being single is some type of anomaly?
I decided to go the Scriptures and see what God says about the single life. Here’s what I discovered:
For starters, according to Google Translate, the Greek word for “single” is μονόκλινο. One definition says, “consisting of one part.” (Google 2016) When I read this I began to see singleness the way God does. God doesn’t look singleness as us being alone because He is already living in us through the Holy Spirit. (John 14:15-31) Which, leads me back to the original question.
Why do we tend to shy away from the idea or reality of being single?
My response to this question is based solely off of my own opinion as well as consulting Scripture, of course. Therefore, I feel like we shy away from the thought of being single out of fear. Nobody, if they’re honest, doesn’t like the thought of being alone for the rest of their life. Who would, right? I totally understand the validity of that fear. I’ve been there.
We have to remember to always go to God’s word no matter what we’re dealing with and see how He would handle it. I think Isaiah gives us a pretty awesome idea of how God sees singleness in His sons and daughters in Isaiah 54:
“For your Creator will be your husband; the LORD of Heaven’s Armies is His name! He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth.”
Isaiah 54:5 (NLT)
Looks like we’re not alone, after all. Pretty amazing, right?
Is it possible that our culture today has somehow concocted the idea that being single is some type of anomaly?
Tony Evans puts it the following way in his blog post entitled, “Christian Singlehood”
“Yet far too many single people fear their missing out on God’s best or God’s plan if they aren’t married. Many singles feel as if their lives are in a holding pattern, like an airplane that is supposed to be landing at its destination but has been ordered to circle the airport.”
I LOVE that analogy because I have felt that way countless times over the years. I feel as though our society today sort of frowns upon the reality of being single by mocking having certain morals or standards that most Christians exude while being single.
Since when did being single become the “elephant in the room” in the sense that it isn’t something people really talk about anymore?
I’m so glad God doesn’t look at singleness the way our culture does. I think being single can help us fall more in love with God before anyone else. That way, when He sends the man (or woman) of our dreams we will understand how to love that person the way Christ loves us.
Why do we (young women especially) sometimes feel bad about being single?
I believe that this directly effects women in terms of how we tolerate our singleness. Women, in general, are more emotional than the guys. (I know that guys can be emotional, which is great) I just feel like women express our emotions more because that’s the way God created us.
My personal struggle with singleness has gotten harder over the last several years. With that being said, I’ve had the great honor and privilege of watching two of my very best friends marry and become one in Christ with the men He created for each of them. What a blessing that has been. God has used each of those experiences in my life to give me a greater perspective of marriage and what it really looks like and how important it is to wait for the man (or woman) that God has created just for you!
P.S. Here are the pictures of my very best friends and I on their wedding days. I love each of them so dearly. I don’t know where I’d be without the love, encouragement and friendship we have!
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