Tag: Marriage

Dear Future Husband

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This is my letter to my future husband:

I want you to know that I’ve prayed for you since I was a little girl playing dress up and dreaming of the guy I would marry.  I have no idea where, when, or how we’ll meet, but it’ll be in God’s perfect timing.  I’m so grateful for you.  For the man of God you are.  Most of all, I’m grateful to God for bringing us together in the way only He could.  Thanks for loving, caring, guiding me through this thing called life.  There’s no doubt you’re the one God created just for me!  You are truly the answer to my prayers and my tender heart.

Love,

Your Future Wife


This past week has been all kinds of crazy.   And this sporadic post is evidence of the craziness yet again.

More importantly, I recently finished reading “Uninvited” by Lysa TerKeurst and I cannot even begin to explain to you how much that book has meant to me and what a profound impact it’s had on my relationship with Jesus.  The book deals specifically with rejection.  The subtitle will always ring loud and clear in the deepest parts of my soul: ”Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out and Lonely.”  I’ll never forget how much the word lonely resonated with me the day I received my copy of the book.

We’ve all been there, haven’t we?  In a lonely place.  Or perhaps we have lived through a season of loneliness.  In His infinite grace and compassion the Lord has been dealing with and walking me through this issue of feeling alone.

When in the midst of a lonely season, we must remember these three things:

  1. We Aren’t Alone (Isaiah 41:10)
  2. Loneliness Doesn’t Define Us (1 Samuel 12:22)
  3. He is Truly Everything We Need (2 Peter 1:3)

Several months ago, I wrote about God’s perspective of being single. That post was such a healing message from God to me that I so desperately needed.  (Spoiler alert: this message will be similar, yet altogether different.  Hang in there with me and I promise you’ll gain a fresh perspective.)  First, let me clarify by saying and acknowledging that I’m certainly not an expert on loneliness. That being said, I write about what I struggle with and this just happens to be my current struggle.  Second, I believe with every fiber of my being that God’s word offers such healing and resurrection to the raw and vulnerable chapters of our story. But, we have to allow God to change and mold our hearts to be more like His.

Lastly, I want to give us the opportunity to consult Scripture as it deals with loneliness.

Isaiah 41 starts out with God reminding the people exactly who He is, yet again. As I was reading I couldn’t help but put myself in the shoes of Israel’s people.  They knew God.  Believed God.  And they even trusted Him.  Until they would get discontented and disillusioned by the chaos going on around them.  (Sound familiar?)  What I love most about Isaiah (and God) is the fact is that they don’t leave us hanging on the edge of harsh words.  When we get to verse ten, we hear God’s sweet promise:

 Don’t be afraid, for I am with you.
    Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you.
    I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.

Isaiah 41:10 NLT

Essentially, this verse has become my mantra here recently. Just like the Israelites knew, believed and even trusted Him, they needed a swift reminder.  And so do That’s exactly what God’s promises are: Reminders of who He truly is for us to grab hold of and proclaim over our lives every single day.


When you’re in the midst of a lonely season it can be very easy to get distracted and disillusioned by the lies of the Enemy. That’s what was happening to God’s people in Isaiah 41 and it happens to you and I today.  Personally, for me Satan loves to allow me to doubt and question God’s unfailing love for me.  This is especially true for my present and future relationships. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard Satan whisper “If God really loved you, you would have a boyfriend right now.” Or worse “You’re so stupid for thinking anyone would ever want to marry a girl in a wheelchair.”  

Oh friend, how badly these lies sting my soul. They make everything within in me scream out in pain. The whispers you hear are probably different from mine, but they are there.  Let me reach out, grab your hand, and proclaim 1 Samuel 12:22 over you:

The Lord will not abandon his people, because that would dishonor his great name. For it has pleased the Lord to make you his very own people.

1 Samuel 12:22 NLT


God is truly all we need. I know, I know the world thinks that statement is so cliché.  They’re wrong.  We are created in the image of the God who spoke the planet into existence, so why do we doubt Him? As a matter of fact, God knows what we need before we do.  We are reminded of that in Matthew 6:8. Don’t be like them, for your Father knows exactly what you need even before you ask him! (NLT)  God knows everything about me.  He knows who I will marry and how many kids we’ll have.  I don’t know for sure, but I’m fairly confident my future husband will be just as passionate about Jesus as I am.   We will grow in our love for God and each other.

When I think about the fact that God will pick my husband for me it frees me.  I’m free from the doubt and fear of the future.  It’s not my responsibility to worry about him, it’s my responsibility to pray for him daily.

By his divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know him, the one who called us to himself by means of his marvelous glory and excellence.

2 Peter 1:3 NLT

God’s Perspective on Being Single

Have you ever wondered what God says about being single? I certainly have.

Singleness, for women or men seems to be weird topic these days.  Sometimes I feel as though it’s a topic that can go unnoticed and one that society tends to shy away from.  So I started toiling these questions around in my mind.

  • Why do we tend to shy away from the idea or reality of being single? (I realize that guys might deal with it a little differently than women, but I still think the struggle is very much the same.)
  • Why do we sometimes feel bad about being single?
  • Is it possible that our culture today has somehow concocted the idea that being single is some type of anomaly? 

I decided to go the Scriptures and see what God says about the single life.  Here’s what I discovered:

For starters, according to Google Translate, the Greek word for “single” is μονόκλινο.  One definition says, “consisting of one part.” (Google 2016) When I read this I began to see singleness the way God does. God doesn’t look singleness as us being alone because He is already living in us through the Holy Spirit. (John 14:15-31) Which, leads me back to the original question.

Why do we tend to shy away from the idea or reality of being single?

My response to this question is based solely off of my own opinion as well as consulting Scripture, of course.  Therefore, I feel like we shy away from the thought of being single out of fear. Nobody, if they’re honest, doesn’t like the thought of being alone for the rest of their life.  Who would, right? I totally understand the validity of that fear. I’ve been there.

We have to remember to always go to God’s word no matter what we’re dealing with and see how He would handle it.  I think Isaiah gives us a pretty awesome idea of how God sees singleness in His sons and daughters in Isaiah 54:

“For your Creator will be your husband; the LORD of Heaven’s Armies is His name!  He is your Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel, the God of all the earth.”

Isaiah 54:5 (NLT)

Looks like we’re not alone, after all.  Pretty amazing, right?


Is it possible that our culture today has somehow concocted the idea that being single is some type of anomaly? 

Tony Evans puts it the following way in his blog post entitled, “Christian Singlehood

“Yet far too many single people fear their missing out on God’s best or God’s plan if they aren’t married.  Many singles feel as if their lives are in a holding pattern, like an airplane that is supposed to be landing at its destination but has been ordered to circle the airport.”

I LOVE that analogy because I have felt that way countless times over the years.  I feel as though our society today sort of frowns upon the reality of being single by mocking having certain morals or standards that most Christians exude while being single.

Since when did being single become the “elephant in the room” in the sense that it isn’t something people really talk about anymore?

I’m so glad God doesn’t look at singleness the way our culture does.  I think being single can help us fall more in love with God before anyone else.  That way, when He sends the man (or woman) of our dreams we will understand how to love that person the way Christ loves us.

Why do we (young women especially) sometimes feel bad about being single?

I believe that this directly effects women in terms of how we tolerate our singleness.  Women, in general, are more emotional than the guys. (I know that guys can be emotional, which is great) I just feel like women express our emotions more because that’s the way God created us.

My personal struggle with singleness has gotten harder over the last several years.  With that being said, I’ve had the great honor and privilege of watching two of my very best friends marry and become one in Christ with the men He created for each of them.  What a blessing that has been.  God has used each of those experiences in my life to give me a greater perspective of marriage and what it really looks like and how important it is to wait for the man (or woman) that God has created just for you!


P.S. Here are the pictures of my very best friends and I on their wedding days.  I love each of them so dearly.  I don’t know where I’d be without the love, encouragement and friendship we have!

Taylor and I: April 2016
Taylor and I: April 2016
Brianne and I: May 2016
Brianne and I: May 2016

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