This is my letter to my future husband:
I want you to know that I’ve prayed for you since I was a little girl playing dress up and dreaming of the guy I would marry. I have no idea where, when, or how we’ll meet, but it’ll be in God’s perfect timing. I’m so grateful for you. For the man of God you are. Most of all, I’m grateful to God for bringing us together in the way only He could. Thanks for loving, caring, guiding me through this thing called life. There’s no doubt you’re the one God created just for me! You are truly the answer to my prayers and my tender heart.
Your Future Wife
This past week has been all kinds of crazy. And this sporadic post is evidence of the craziness yet again.
More importantly, I recently finished reading “Uninvited” by Lysa TerKeurst and I cannot even begin to explain to you how much that book has meant to me and what a profound impact it’s had on my relationship with Jesus. The book deals specifically with rejection. The subtitle will always ring loud and clear in the deepest parts of my soul: ”Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out and Lonely.” I’ll never forget how much the word lonely resonated with me the day I received my copy of the book.
We’ve all been there, haven’t we? In a lonely place. Or perhaps we have lived through a season of loneliness. In His infinite grace and compassion the Lord has been dealing with and walking me through this issue of feeling alone.
When in the midst of a lonely season, we must remember these three things:
- We Aren’t Alone (Isaiah 41:10)
- Loneliness Doesn’t Define Us (1 Samuel 12:22)
- He is Truly Everything We Need (2 Peter 1:3)
Several months ago, I wrote about God’s perspective of being single. That post was such a healing message from God to me that I so desperately needed. (Spoiler alert: this message will be similar, yet altogether different. Hang in there with me and I promise you’ll gain a fresh perspective.) First, let me clarify by saying and acknowledging that I’m certainly not an expert on loneliness. That being said, I write about what I struggle with and this just happens to be my current struggle. Second, I believe with every fiber of my being that God’s word offers such healing and resurrection to the raw and vulnerable chapters of our story. But, we have to allow God to change and mold our hearts to be more like His.
Lastly, I want to give us the opportunity to consult Scripture as it deals with loneliness.
Isaiah 41 starts out with God reminding the people exactly who He is, yet again. As I was reading I couldn’t help but put myself in the shoes of Israel’s people. They knew God. Believed God. And they even trusted Him. Until they would get discontented and disillusioned by the chaos going on around them. (Sound familiar?) What I love most about Isaiah (and God) is the fact is that they don’t leave us hanging on the edge of harsh words. When we get to verse ten, we hear God’s sweet promise:
Don’t be afraid, for I am with you.
Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God.
I will strengthen you and help you.
I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.
Isaiah 41:10 NLT
Essentially, this verse has become my mantra here recently. Just like the Israelites knew, believed and even trusted Him, they needed a swift reminder. And so do That’s exactly what God’s promises are: Reminders of who He truly is for us to grab hold of and proclaim over our lives every single day.
When you’re in the midst of a lonely season it can be very easy to get distracted and disillusioned by the lies of the Enemy. That’s what was happening to God’s people in Isaiah 41 and it happens to you and I today. Personally, for me Satan loves to allow me to doubt and question God’s unfailing love for me. This is especially true for my present and future relationships. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard Satan whisper “If God really loved you, you would have a boyfriend right now.” Or worse “You’re so stupid for thinking anyone would ever want to marry a girl in a wheelchair.”
Oh friend, how badly these lies sting my soul. They make everything within in me scream out in pain. The whispers you hear are probably different from mine, but they are there. Let me reach out, grab your hand, and proclaim 1 Samuel 12:22 over you:
The Lord will not abandon his people, because that would dishonor his great name. For it has pleased the Lord to make you his very own people.
1 Samuel 12:22 NLT
God is truly all we need. I know, I know the world thinks that statement is so cliché. They’re wrong. We are created in the image of the God who spoke the planet into existence, so why do we doubt Him? As a matter of fact, God knows what we need before we do. We are reminded of that in Matthew 6:8. Don’t be like them, for your Father knows exactly what you need even before you ask him! (NLT) God knows everything about me. He knows who I will marry and how many kids we’ll have. I don’t know for sure, but I’m fairly confident my future husband will be just as passionate about Jesus as I am. We will grow in our love for God and each other.
When I think about the fact that God will pick my husband for me it frees me. I’m free from the doubt and fear of the future. It’s not my responsibility to worry about him, it’s my responsibility to pray for him daily.
By his divine power, God has given us everything we need for living a godly life. We have received all of this by coming to know him, the one who called us to himself by means of his marvelous glory and excellence.
2 Peter 1:3 NLT